Why do people keep going on about the 'beauty' of platonic relationships ?? They should see it what is it really is - a mirage, maya, an illusion. And the worst part is when a friend of the opposite sex who persists in this charade start playing mind games and transgresses your personal boundaries - and then wonder why you've suddenly cut them off...
There is no such thing as a pure platonic relationship. Logically that would require both participants in the boy meet girl scenario to be at the exact same microscopic level of detached emotional /mental understanding. There will always be an inbalance or deficit between the two friends' levels of expectation. One person is bound to want more than the other - each one of us has a subconscious unwritten agenda, yes ? Our forefathers understood this concept centuries ago, and set demarcation lines regarding the level of casual interaction between the sexes.
Many of the so-called "platonic" relationships still carry on because there is an unwritten promise of a potential for something else to happen. One (or both) parties are happy for the charade to continue, because at some point in the future, there is the chance to be able to cash in on their investment in the friendship, and convert it into a romance, or at least a friendship with a sexual benefits package attached.
Hence a more apt term would be 'controlled relationship' as opposed to 'platonic'. Proceed with caution... :-)
SM
[Originally written in April 2004]
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